By Participating in a threesome, meeting a famous person or thinking about another person while having sex with your partner are fantasies that often occur in the female group. Find out what else there is.
It is possible to imagine erotic sequences in the mind that are on a par with the most passionate scenes in cinema, as the imagination allows us to explore far-off territories. And although it is not possible to generalize based on gender, it is common for women to include more elaborate elements in their sexual fantasies compared to men.
In this reading we invite you to discover the 25 ideas with risqué content that are most often repeated in them.
What are sexual fantasies and what are their benefits?
A sexual fantasy is a mental representation or imagery involving erotic situations, people and/or sensations. There is no set script, as they vary from person to person.
As long as it doesn’t become obsessive and excessive, fantasizing is healthy. On an individual and couple level, letting your imagination run wild when it comes to sexual content can have great benefits, including the following:
- Enrich stimulation and excitement .
- Explore sexual desires and preferences.
- Reduce stress and accumulated tension.
- Strengthen emotional connection and intimacy in the relationship .
- Encourage adventure and creativity in the couple, avoiding sexual boredom .
It is important to note that fantasies do not always translate into real actions nor do they necessarily reflect a real desire.
Sometimes a person enjoys imagining a specific scenario without having the intention of making it a reality. It is a safe and creative space of the mind.
What are the most common sexual fantasies of women?
Every woman is unique in the way she experiences her sexuality. However, we cannot deny that there are some fantasies that many share in their intimate imagination. Do any of these sound familiar or catch your attention?
1. Domination and submission games
There are women who like to be in charge and others who love to be dominated. These scenes may include power play , submission or control in erotic situations. BDSM practices ( bondage / discipline, domination/submission and sadism/masochism) are part of such experiences.
Interestingly, one study found that consensual BDSM practices reduce psychological stress and increase sexual arousal .
2. Romanticism with eroticism
Another of the most common sexual fantasies among women is related to the idea of having encounters where emotional connection is intertwined with the burning spark of desire. For many, the possibility of living their own cinematic moment, with passionate kisses and caresses that awaken all the senses, is irresistible.
3. Casual one-night stands
Novelty is also a very tempting idea. Casual sex , with no commitments or long-term expectations, is very attractive. A fleeting encounter with someone you pass on the subway, or the seductive glance of the barista where you bought a coffee, could awaken the desire to explore the unknown.
4. A trio
The illusion of participating in a threesome is quite common, both among the male and female population. For many women, the thought of sharing intimacy with two people at the same time is intriguing. This fantasy focuses on the possibility of giving and receiving pleasure in different parts of the body simultaneously.
5. Sex with another woman, being heterosexual
Sexuality is diverse and the mind explores its limits. Fantasizing about experiences with another person of the same sex, even if you are heterosexual, is more common than you might think.
In some cases, it is due to the perception that another woman might have a more intuitive understanding of intimate rhythms, the way of stimulation and how one wants to be touched. It is believed that by sharing similar experiences and anatomies, one woman would have a unique sensitivity to fulfilling another’s desires.
6. Observe or be observed
Voyeurism and exhibitionism come into play, triggering the thrill of witnessing passion or being the focus of desire. For some ladies, imagining watching other people in sexual situations sparks a burning curiosity; while fantasizing about being watched may produce a sense of empowerment and arousal.
7. Thinking about another person while having sex with your partner
Sometimes the mind seeks variety and additional stimulation, to the point of fusing the desire for one’s partner with suggestive thoughts about another person. This fantasy, known as allorgasmia , can be a strategy to combat monotony in the sexual routine , although its impact varies between couples.
While some find this idea strengthens emotional connection and intimacy, in others it creates mistrust, conflict or feelings of guilt.
Sexual fantasies involving people outside the couple are common expressions of the mind and do not always indicate dissatisfaction in the relationship.
8. Relationships with a famous person (real or fictional)
Another of the most common sexual fantasies among women is intimacy with a celebrity. Singers, actors and actresses, those faces that seduce on the screen, often become the protagonists of daring imaginations. And you? Have you ever fantasized about Ryan Gosling or Chris Hemsworth playing Thor in an intimate setting?
9. Sex in unusual places
The thrill of the forbidden and the possibility of being discovered make it exciting to fantasize about sex in movie theaters, bathrooms, or airplanes, for example. The idea of experiencing erotic moments in unconventional places provides a touch of adrenaline, which turns every area into a potential stage for seduction.
10. Try sex toys
From vibrators to Chinese balls or feather handcuffs, the variety of sex toys is wide. For women who do not yet dare to use them in real life, as well as for those who have already experimented, exploring with these elements is a common imagination for them.
11. Privacy in the open air
The connection with nature and the feeling of freedom lead some women to fantasize about outdoor sex. A deserted beach, a quiet forest or a starry sky can become an ideal setting to explore intimacy in a more passionate and spontaneous way.
12. Sexual relations with a close person
Although this sexual thought may be accompanied by a mix of emotions, the attraction of crossing the line with someone close, such as a friend, coworker or teacher, is intense for some women. It is common to fantasize about erotic encounters with people who are part of everyday life, even if they do not translate into real actions.
13. Mutual masturbation
Female imagination sometimes gives rise to fantasies where she and her sexual partner focus on their own masturbation, while sharing the excitement through observation . Another variation would include both stimulating each other simultaneously.
14. Meetings in different places in the house
Having intimate encounters in different corners of the house is an exciting way to escape the monotony of the bedroom. Places like the kitchen, the living room or even the bathroom offer innovative perspectives on connecting. Of course, if you want to make this fantasy a reality, make sure that no one else is around, to enjoy the experience to the fullest.
15. More daring oral sex
The idea of taking fellatio or cunnilingus to a more adventurous level excites some women. Perhaps their minds push them to go beyond conventional techniques and venture into bolder, more creative territory. Not only do these foreplays play a prominent role in real life, but they often play a prominent role in fantasy.
16. Incorporate food into the sexual experience
Including food in sexual activity can add a unique sensory dimension as it comes into contact with the body and skin of a sexual partner. For this reason, some ladies think of the excitement of playing with juicy strawberries, melted chocolate, whipped cream or honey during their intimate encounters.
17. Sexual interactions in exchange for money
This erotic fantasy involves entering the realm of seduction and intimacy in a more transgressive context. In this case, what is attractive is the fact of immersing oneself in the complexity of roles, power and taboos. It is an idea that usually remains in the realm of the imaginary, but, as we have already mentioned, in the mind there are no forbidden limits.
18. Being surprised with a spontaneous encounter
The idea of coming home and discovering that your partner is waiting for you without clothes and with the clear intention of giving in to passion is a scene that many women find irresistible in their sexual fantasies.
19. Being caught in the act
Another of the most common female sexual fantasies is linked to an intimate encounter when there is the possibility that someone will enter the room in the middle of the act. This could occur, for example, during a social gathering at home with guests or at a crowded party. Such a situation awakens a feeling of morbidity, adrenaline and challenge.
20. Blindfolded sex
With your vision turned off, the rest of your senses are heightened. The idea of immersing yourself in this game of trust and pleasure, where you just let yourself go without knowing what comes next, is thrilling.
21. Playing with your partner under fictitious identities
You and your partner adopting false identities for a secret rendezvous, using disguises, made-up names and a mysterious atmosphere, is an imaginary adventure that adds mischief to intimacy.
22. New sexual positions
The curiosity to explore different positions that allow you to vary your routine and discover new forms of pleasure is a fantasy that many women share. Experimenting with new sexy positions tends to revitalize intimacy and take the connection to deeper levels.
23. Sex in the workplace
The thought of making love after or during the work day, whether in the office, warehouse or music studio, seems very tempting to them. From the furtive brushing of hands in the boardroom to passionate whispers in a discreet corner, the thought of exploring intimacy in the workplace stirs up intense emotions of desire and secrecy.
24. Recording yourself or using mirrors during the act
Placing mirrors strategically to enjoy the sexual experience visually is stimulating. That is why many women fantasize about this and, sometimes, about recording video and sound, to later relive the moment and see themselves in full arousal.
25. Wear sensual lingerie
Choosing provocative and sensual underwear can be part of any sexual fantasy. Not only does this boost self-esteem , but it also creates a highly suggestive erotic atmosphere. In addition, some women imagine scenes in which their partners sexyly remove or even tear their underwear in the midst of passion.
Are there differences between what men and women fantasize about?
On the one hand, the frequency of sexual fantasies generates mixed opinions. While some claim that men have them more often, others believe that the differences are not so noticeable, but that women admit to it less.
Experts also differ on the content. Some sexologists suggest that there are actually more similarities than differences between the sexual imagination of the female and male population.
Others argue that male fantasies tend to be more graphic and physically focused, and that women tend to incorporate emotional or contextual elements. For women, the details of location and sequence are more elaborate, as well as linked to romance and seduction.
It is interesting to note that these differences may be conditioned by culturally rooted gender stereotypes . However, it is important to remember that each person, regardless of their gender and sexual orientation , has their own fantasies.
There is no set rule, and the expression of each fantasy is as individual as each human being.
Fantasizing is part of a healthy sexuality
Fantasies are a natural and healthy part of many people’s sex lives. They are even considered an excellent form of self-exploration and self-knowledge, as well as serving as a stimulus for intimacy.
They are also seen as a way to escape from daily stress, so there is no need to feel any shame about them. As long as they do not negatively alter your daily life, you should not hold back from experiencing them.